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Self Discovery
What Are Our Emotions Trying To Tell Us?
I’ve been bonding with my faithful Tommy Emmanuel Limited Edition Maton guitar, a close companion of mine for around 24 years. We’ve shared many tunes, good vibes, tears and fun together.
I thank my stars that I grew up with a musical family. Playing, singing and making music can soothe the soul, calm the mind and help to move feelings and emotions through the nervous system.
Making Music is a Great Way to Get in Touch with a Vital Part of You.. The Part that can Feel
The power of music can be noticed when you are feeling down and you put on a slow, sad song, it will often bring you to tears since it exacerbates your current feeling state. Alternatively, you can feel down and put on, or sing, some music that is uplifting, and it can uplift you.
How can witnessing or observing our emotions help us?
We can look at our triggered emotions, and spontaneous feelings, as messages sent to us from our subconscious into our conscious awareness, so that we can choose if they are enjoyable, or to our liking, or not.
Emotions are signposts.
How do you want to feel?
Instead of getting swept away by emotions and feelings, we can welcome them and use them to better understand the present moment, and what our subconscious is calling our attention to. If we are having emotions that feel uncomfortable, then we have the opportunity, triggered by the emotion, to choose again.
Acknowledging Our Emotions Gives Us the Steering Wheel of Life’s Emotional Ride
How To Let Old Emotions Go
An effective method for releasing emotions, is to first notice you are over reacting or acting disproportionately to the situation.
1. As soon as you notice, give the emotion space to be in your body. Be with it for a moment. Breathe into it.
2. Find the area of the body the emotion seems to be mostly located in, and any physical sensation associated with it. It may feel like a tightening of the chest, or an uncomfortable feeling in the stomach.
3. Focus on the sensation, and avoid letting the mind get into a story or reason behind the emotion. Keep your awareness on the sensation and the breath. Observe what occurs in your body without judgement.
4. Ask yourself, “Do I want to continue feeling this?”. If “yes”, then continue putting your attention on the sensations and feelings you are experiencing. If the answer is “No” ask yourself, “How would I prefer to feel?”
5. If you would prefer to feel happy, focus your attention on the feeling of happiness. Find ‘good-feeling’ thoughts. Sometimes, finding things to be great-full for, is an effective way of re-instating inner happiness.
Through this process, you get to experience the fact that your emotions cannot hurt you, which enables you to have less fear around experiencing them.
But, most of all, it helps you to see that you are the chooser of how you feel. You cannot control life’s situations, but you can choose how you react to them.
Mastering your emotions does not mean to control them, it means to understand them. And, we learn to understand things through having the experience and by giving emotions our attention.
Over time you will master your emotions by knowing them, not by suppressing them, and you will lighten your ‘feeling’ state by focusing on, and manifesting, the feelings that you ‘do’ want to feel.
Sonja 
BLOG Author
Little Wings author, illustrator and designer, Sonja Kallio, shares motivational exercises and techniques for individual inner self discovery. Blog writings cover a variety of tips that assist in self inquiry to find where, in ones life, it can be brighter and better.